Elan Vitae


  • J Bristol


Considering balance as a function of aperture

If you’ve caught yourself thinking, muttering, or otherwise declaring at some point that balance is total bullshit because this nebulous, evasive, elusive holy grail always seems more than a few steps away, you’re not alone.

The hurried actions, the intense focus, the all-consuming connection to what’s happening right in front of you can be a whirlwind of fun, of stress, productivity, action, even satisfaction. When uber-focused on one area of life, we can often feel we’re neglecting others - creating a sense of imbalance, leaving us striving for more of it.

But is it really out of balance?

Just one step backward away from the intensity of a moment or space in time can reveal a completely new scene. One of more interconnectivity and ultimately, more balance. That one step back reveals just how the intensity of the current moment in one area of life weaves into the others and is quite often crucial to the bigger picture balance.

A tight and exacting relationship with the concept of balance can be limiting. A notion that is meant to convey a sense of calm, zen, security, even harmony begins to constrict rather than expand us when too much pressure is placed on it. Like anything under pressure, the very feeling it is meant to uphold begins to crumble, resulting in a dimming of your light and limitation in your power and potency. This can give way to emotions like guilt, shame, and doubt, ultimately distracting us from where we need our current attention to be.

Holding balance as a value

Striving for balance is different from holding it as a value. Inherently, its definition must be fluid and malleable in order to engage it most effectively. Striving connotes difficulty or lack while holding as a value connotes a healthier, almost separate perspective. Not quite objective, but not totally subjective either, it is a position that is solid and secure, effectively keeping loose watch over the overall outcomes while flowing those emotions that amplify instead of inhibit the desired results.